You see it plastered across every glossy magazine cover, in every corner shop, supermarket, airport: 'How to dress for your body type', 'what to wear to make yourself slimmer', 'how to... ; tuck in your tummy... accentuate your breasts... suck in your thighs...' the list is never ending - no really, it's ridiculous what we expect of ourselves-.
I myself am no fashion expert, (despite my brimming wardrobe, my go to outfit is anything that most closely resembles pyjamas), but, I do feel I can answer some of these questions a little better than the gossip columns. So here are my rules on how to dress for your body type.
1. simply
2. don't
3. give
4. a
5. f***
and
6. if you like it, wear it.
and
6. if you like it, wear it.
This may seem quite a novel rule, even an extremely obvious one. However, this blog post is just as much about affirming these beliefs for myself as it is trying to aid others in their self-love journey. I still struggle with this concept every morning I stand in front of my mirror. Obsessing over how my love handles actually surpass the size of my butt, how my tummy sticks out, my back rolls, the size of my thighs, my arms, picking myself apart inch by inch and as a result just throwing on the same pair of black leggings and baggy jumper to hide all those things I hate about myself.
However, on my good days, my self loving days, I remind myself of this. Life is far too short to worry about what others are going to think of your appearance. If anything, everyone is far too busy feeling the exact same way. I certainly do not obsess about the appearance of the strangers I pass in the street, and if I do ever register what they look like it is usually a thought about how good they look. If anything, it is really quite ridiculous to think the lives of those around you resolve so greatly around judging and critiquing your appearance. People - at least kind people - really don't care and are much more likely to be wrapped up in their own lives and thoughts to notice.
Dressing for your body is not about what society and mainstream media has manipulated you into thinking looks good - it can't be answered by a columnist who doesn't know you, and the answers do not reside in the writings littered across a two page spread. Dressing for your body is about dressing in a way that is personal to you. What is going to make you feel most confident, most happy and most comfortable in yourself. Confidence is what is sexy, not the societal norm of beauty. If you dress in a way that makes you feel confident within, this will shine through and it will be all people are able to notice.
I view women who are larger than me, have bigger love handles, saggier breasts etc as such beautiful people. I would never say the things I say to myself to them, so why do I abuse myself that way? Why do I hate myself so much and yet love others for their differences? It needs to stop, and I'm on the journey, hopefully, to fixing my ways.
However, on my good days, my self loving days, I remind myself of this. Life is far too short to worry about what others are going to think of your appearance. If anything, everyone is far too busy feeling the exact same way. I certainly do not obsess about the appearance of the strangers I pass in the street, and if I do ever register what they look like it is usually a thought about how good they look. If anything, it is really quite ridiculous to think the lives of those around you resolve so greatly around judging and critiquing your appearance. People - at least kind people - really don't care and are much more likely to be wrapped up in their own lives and thoughts to notice.
Dressing for your body is not about what society and mainstream media has manipulated you into thinking looks good - it can't be answered by a columnist who doesn't know you, and the answers do not reside in the writings littered across a two page spread. Dressing for your body is about dressing in a way that is personal to you. What is going to make you feel most confident, most happy and most comfortable in yourself. Confidence is what is sexy, not the societal norm of beauty. If you dress in a way that makes you feel confident within, this will shine through and it will be all people are able to notice.
I view women who are larger than me, have bigger love handles, saggier breasts etc as such beautiful people. I would never say the things I say to myself to them, so why do I abuse myself that way? Why do I hate myself so much and yet love others for their differences? It needs to stop, and I'm on the journey, hopefully, to fixing my ways.
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